Learn to Forgive: 10 Tips and Quick Quiz

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Are you ready to forgive? 

One of the most difficult burdens that weigh heavily on many of us is being weighed down by bitterness and grudges. Sometimes we see the tormenter as no one other than ourselves, and we get emotionally paralyzed by self-blame and guilt, crippling self-esteem and limiting optimism about the future. Lacking forgiveness  for the wrongs committed by self and others are one of the primary obstacles to happiness. Learn about the healing power of forgiveness with these main points and the following quick quiz.

TIP #1: Forgiveness is not about condoning behavior – it is about accepting that regretful things happened, and not letting one’s life be defined by the past which can not be changed.

TIP #2 Forgiveness is less about the the transgressor and more about the person who harbors the resentment. It’s about the negativity that keep reverberating in one’s head, many times long after the perceived transgressions.

TIP #3 In the case of not forgiving others, help clients see that even if the other person does not deserve their forgiveness, they do. They no longer need to be defined by the transgressions of others.

TIP #4 Being unforgiving makes it hard to find gratefulness in everyday life, and gratefulness is one of the keys to a positive and emotionally healthy life.

TIP #5 Forgiving others – and yourself – for not having the foresight to know which might be now so obvious in hindsight, is the key to freedom from unhappiness, anger and bitterness.

TIP #6 Forgiveness opens your heart to healing, instead of keeping it closed and self-protective.

TIP #7 Forgiveness does not mean going back for more. Setting limits with others is important so you won’t be hurt again – even to the point of ending a toxic relationship.

TIP #8 In the case of self-blame, learn from the mistakes, make amends if others were hurt, and move on wiser than before. In essence, learn from the past, don’t live in it. Forgive yourself for not being healthier “back then.”

TIP #9 You can transform unproductive regret to productive regret when staying stuck in self-blame. In productive regret, you build on lessons learned from the past and make new choices now.

TIP #10 Helping your clients forgive will help them shift from why to what’s next? Only by moving forward, bruised but wiser, will our clients be able to live life fully TODAY.

Use this quick quiz to test their “Forgiveness IQ”, to unleash the power of forgiveness. To quote comedian Lily Tomlin, “Forgiveness means giving up all hope for a better past.”

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